Some of you more liberal minded gals may not like or
agree with my response.
But my answer is no, usually. Let me explain. There
may be circumstances that allow for you to
ask a man out. Maybe he is just shy
but shows some interest. What I mean by this is, does he make
overt efforts to
stop and to talk with you but does not follow through all the way. If you
notice that he
seems very interested in you, then go for it. But don’t mistake
friendliness with genuine interest just
because you have a crush on him! Be
honest with yourself to avoid setting yourself up to get hurt unnecessarily!
Another consideration is if you work together. It
can be very awkward to ask a man out only to be rejected
and then have to see
him every day. A more conservative approach in this situation may be to ask him
to be part of the cocktail hour group. If he’s interested, he’ll gladly jump at
the chance to hang out with you!
In the end it is your call. If he does not reciprocate,
then move on. Plenty of fish in the sea! So have fun fishing!
A Bloke's opinion
The truth is there’s no easy answer to this question.If you do you’ll be bucking thousands of
years of
social conventions. Whether this custom is sexist or just the natural
order, many men are turned off when
a woman asks them out, which they see (unfairly)
as a sign of female aggressiveness, another social taboo.
As a result, I believe that many great potential
relationships have never blossomed. Why? Because the
man, the same man who
hates “pushy” women, is afraid to make the first move, or worse, clueless to
interpret the signs of interest.
So what is to be done? That depends upon the individual guy
and, in fact, on you. I say this because it’s
very difficult to know how he’s
going to react. So you have to ask yourself if you like men who are turned
off
by assertive women, or if you prefer a guy who’s secure enough with his own
masculinity to actually appreciate you taking the initiative.
Unfortunately, this may drastically cut down the pool of
available men, so until we evolve (i.e., grow up)
a little more, it may be
wiser to play it safe and try to approach us in a neutral, indirect, simply
friendly
way. If we don’t take the hint, we’re either not interested or too
stupid to be worth dating.
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